Projectional Love. It’s good to understand because to some extent, we all project onto everyone we date. But now, let’s discuss how to create the kind of love that makes long-term relationships work, Relational Love. Relational Love means continually making the CHOICE to see, love, and accept our partners for who they truly are RIGHT NOW…and now…and now… It’s about choosing love, again and again, no matter what.
IS ROMANTIC LOVE AN ILLUSION? Is it really just two people PROJECTING ALL OVER each other? I’ve wondered this many times in the past, because, as it turns out, most of the love I’ve been in was ENTIRELY projectional. It’s the kind of love that we’re taught about in movies and fairy tales. It’s based on immediate feelings of home and deep connection, crazy chemistry and passion, fireworks galore; my knight in shining armor. You know the drill. But surprisingly, none of those relationships worked out in the end!
HAVE YOU EVER EXPERIENCED TRUE LOVE? The first question to ask yourself is: DO I CHOOSE MY ROMANTIC PARTNERS?
OR DO THEY CHOOSE ME? To me, it usually feels like WE CHOOSE EACH OTHER!! Right?! But is that actually true?