If so, I’ve been there. I was there for most of my life. I always wanted to be attracted to a different type of person. Someone sexy, kind, and thoughtful, who didn’t consistently trigger me when they were just being themselves. Someone that didn’t keep activating my anxious attachment system, but naturally showed up for me in the exact way I wanted.
Projectional Love. It’s good to understand because to some extent, we all project onto everyone we date. But now, let’s discuss how to create the kind of love that makes long-term relationships work, Relational Love. Relational Love means continually making the CHOICE to see, love, and accept our partners for who they truly are RIGHT NOW…and now…and now… It’s about choosing love, again and again, no matter what.