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Have You Ever Experienced True Love?

The first question to ask yourself is:


To me, it usually feels like WE CHOOSE EACH OTHER!! ๐‘…๐‘–๐‘”โ„Ž๐‘ก?! 

But is that actually true? 

Have you ever chosen a partner based, not on how much you like them, but on how much they like you? Or maybe how they make you feel?

In the past, I have almost always chosen the person that likes or loves me the most, above everyone else in my life at that time. And the more they show me their love, the more I love them back. I have chosen the guys that immediately feel like home, the ones that felt like Iโ€™ve known through many lifetimes, the ones that feel like we were made from the same cloth, or like we are different versions of the same person. And Iโ€™ve chosen the men that are so incredibly beautiful, I canโ€™t believe they actually like me.  

๐ต๐‘ข๐‘ก, ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘  ๐ผ ๐‘—๐‘ข๐‘ ๐‘ก ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘–๐‘Ÿ ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘š๐‘’? 
๐‘Š๐‘Ž๐‘  ๐ผ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘–๐‘š๐‘Ž๐‘”๐‘–๐‘›๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘ฆ ๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘–๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘š?

These are fabulous things to ask ourselves because it tells us if we are in โ€œPROJECTIONAL LOVEโ€ or โ€œRELATIONAL LOVEโ€.

โ€œ๐๐ซ๐จ๐ฃ๐ž๐œ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐žโ€ is essentially mistaking true love for what one could call teaching love. These partners are here to teach us about ourselves, but typically wonโ€™t turn into long-term relationships.

โ€œ๐‘๐ž๐ฅ๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง๐š๐ฅ ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐žโ€ means loving someone that is different from us. We love the person not for how they make us feel, what they do for us, or for finding a lost part of ourselves. We truly love that person because they are distinctly different from us. This is true love.

The best way to know what kind of love weโ€™ve been in or what kind of love weโ€™re in right now, is to make a list of all the qualities we love about that person.ย 

Go on…make the list. Even if itโ€™s just on your phone.
Yes, I said write ๐Ÿคชโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆโ€ฆ..

Ok now, look at that list. ๐‡๐Ž๐– ๐Œ๐€๐๐˜ ๐Ž๐… ๐“๐‡๐„๐’๐„ ๐๐”๐€๐‹๐ˆ๐“๐ˆ๐„๐’ ๐ˆ๐๐•๐Ž๐‹๐•๐„ ๐˜๐Ž๐”?ย 
If they are mostly about the other person, then you are probably in Relational Love. BUT if, like me, your lists are mostly about what they do for you, how they treat you, and what they offer you, then you are probably in Projectional Love.

Examples like: 

I loveโ€ฆ
– how you worship me like a GODDESS
– how you make me feel safe, loved, and so special
– how you can always make me laugh
– how youโ€™re always thinking about me
– how you feel like home
– how we always seem so aligned
– how it feel like a force greater than us brought us together

๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ค, ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘ž๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘š๐‘–๐‘”โ„Ž๐‘ก ๐‘๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘‘๐‘–๐‘๐‘™๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘š๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘ฆ ๐‘ค๐‘Ž๐‘ฆ๐‘  ๐ต๐‘ˆ๐‘‡ ๐‘›๐‘œ๐‘›๐‘’ ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘’ ๐‘ž๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘–๐‘ก๐‘–๐‘’๐‘  ๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘™๐‘™๐‘ฆ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘ก ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘–๐‘›๐‘” ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘“๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘Š๐ป๐‘‚ ๐‘‡๐ป๐ธ๐‘Œ ๐‘‡๐‘…๐‘ˆ๐ฟ๐‘Œ ๐ด๐‘…๐ธ, ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘–๐‘โ„Ž ๐‘š๐‘’๐‘Ž๐‘›๐‘  ๐‘ค๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘š๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’ ๐‘–๐‘› ๐‘™๐‘œ๐‘ฃ๐‘’ ๐‘ค๐‘–๐‘กโ„Ž ๐‘œ๐‘ข๐‘Ÿ ๐‘œ๐‘ค๐‘› ๐‘–๐‘‘๐‘’๐‘Ž ๐‘œ๐‘“ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘œ๐‘Ÿ ๐‘คโ„Ž๐‘œ ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘ฆ ๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘๐‘Ÿ๐‘’๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘›๐‘ก, ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘Ž๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’ ๐‘Ž๐‘๐‘ก๐‘ข๐‘Ž๐‘™ ๐‘๐‘’๐‘Ÿ๐‘ ๐‘œ๐‘› ๐‘กโ„Ž๐‘’๐‘š๐‘ ๐‘’๐‘™๐‘ฃ๐‘’๐‘ .

These projectional relationships fall under 4 categories: ๐“๐ฐ๐ข๐ง ๐…๐ฅ๐š๐ฆ๐ž & ๐’๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ฆ๐š๐ญ๐ž ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž, ๐๐š๐ซ๐ž๐ง๐ญ๐ฌ ๐‘๐ž๐ฌ๐ž๐ฆ๐›๐ฅ๐ข๐ง๐  ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž, ๐’๐จ๐ฅ๐ฎ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐“๐จ ๐„๐ฏ๐ž๐ซ๐ฒ๐ญ๐ก๐ข๐ง๐  ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž, and ๐•๐š๐ฅ๐ข๐๐š๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐‹๐จ๐ฏ๐ž (credit Layla Martin).
Get ready!! Next week we will dive into these different ๐ญ๐ฒ๐ฉ๐ž๐ฌ ๐จ๐Ÿ ๐ฅ๐จ๐ฏ๐žโ€ฆ

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LOVE LOVE LOVE from beautiful Sayulita, MEXICO
jess ๐ŸŒŸโญ๏ธโœจโšก๏ธโ˜€๏ธ๐Ÿš

December 3, 2019

Have You Ever Experienced True Love?