IS ROMANTIC LOVE AN ILLUSION? Is it really just two people PROJECTING ALL OVER each other? I’ve wondered this many times in the past, because, as it turns out, most of the love I’ve been in was ENTIRELY projectional. It’s the kind of love that we’re taught about in movies and fairy tales. It’s based on immediate feelings of home and deep connection, crazy chemistry and passion, fireworks galore; my knight in shining armor. You know the drill. But surprisingly, none of those relationships worked out in the end!